
Do you have a pusher?
I do. He emails me stark messages like, “Well?”
It’s not a reminder, it’s an order. It’s also a show of faith. He believes in me. I don’t know why but he seems to have a vision of a PJ Reece that even I don’t have.
“Outlined it yet?”
Is it possible that he sees me better than I see myself? Do I really have self-sabotaging strategies?
This pusher of mine once listened as I read him the opening pages of my novel-in-progress. It concerned the pending death of my protagonist’s wife. The story concerns little else but this death. My friend laughed. I was dismayed until I realized, yes, it was funny. I knew immediately how to proceed. I finally saw my story for what it was—a work of humour.
“Mailed it yet?”
I don’t know why this friend of mine believes in me so much. Why should he? He’s a writer himself. He has his own resistance issues. Does he email himself rude little notes? Or does he have a pusher, too? I hope so, because…
We see others better than we see ourselves.
We can’t see ourselves. It’s a protective function of the human organism. We have a blind spot over that which, if seen, would cause our precious little assumptions to crumble.
My friend sees something about me. He sees my weaknesses and my possibilities. We all see potential in others. Call it the thrust of a life. A trajectory. Our true friends are disturbed to see it veer off course, or remain unfulfilled.
“Well?”
The same concern makes friends be tough critics. Joe Bunting is discussing this very thing today on his Write Practice blog.
Do you have a friend who may be stalling short of the threshold of success? You could explain to them, “Every door is open; there is no one in charge; we’re just afraid of judgment on the other side.”
Or you could just say, “Well?”
Go ahead, risk their wrath. Push a little.
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“…he should be cut down without mercy and forced by his own self to write as well as he can for the rest of his life. At least he will have the story of the hanging to commence with.”

Whatever it is that Art says, that’s what my muse wants to say.








